There is a new slang term for withdrawal, called being “ghosted” or “ghosting”. Leaving someone else hanging, confused, because you don’t want to confront a situation that might cause feelings of shame. If a person doesn’t want a job or another date, the right thing to do is let the person know. These days people just stop responding, don’t answer emails, phone calls, they refuse to deal with uncomfortable situations. Why? The only thing I can figure out is the discomfort of turning someone down or a difficult conversation causes shame. I do not know why it would cause shame, but this must be the reason. The only other reason would be disinterest, and lack of compassion. When a person is no longer interested in work or in a relationship, or what have you, they delete it, and the lack of interest causes the ghosting/withdrawal. What do you think?
Brian, best wishes. See you on Facebook.
Gary Ekman
St. John’s College A‘75
Hi, thanks for the greeting.
Enjoyed reading this letter.
There is a new slang term for withdrawal, called being “ghosted” or “ghosting”. Leaving someone else hanging, confused, because you don’t want to confront a situation that might cause feelings of shame. If a person doesn’t want a job or another date, the right thing to do is let the person know. These days people just stop responding, don’t answer emails, phone calls, they refuse to deal with uncomfortable situations. Why? The only thing I can figure out is the discomfort of turning someone down or a difficult conversation causes shame. I do not know why it would cause shame, but this must be the reason. The only other reason would be disinterest, and lack of compassion. When a person is no longer interested in work or in a relationship, or what have you, they delete it, and the lack of interest causes the ghosting/withdrawal. What do you think?
Hi, I did write about Ghosting back in February. Thanks for the comment.
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